The ICe Queen as a Love Guru

Is November a month of broken relationships — at least to some people i know? And I am flattered (actually, I am amused) that these people, who do not necessarily know each other but all have one thing in common (ME), seek me in times of pain and sorrow.

Honestly, after years of being unattached (much so that i proclaimed myself as The Ice Queen), I personally think that I have no moral ascendancy to advice people on love. Well, life in general, may be… but LOVE??? How can I when I myself have not been triumphant in this area? But my friends think otherwise…  Oh well…

A few who sought my advice were in pain out of their own making– i categorized them as masochists, to which they agreed naman LOL. Sila ay mga true blue vhaklita o kaya mga babaeng feeling bading…

Others were victims of circumstances beyond their control and the case often involves betrayal. Right love at the wrong time ang mga drama nila… at napakadaming tanong, na ang akala nila, masasagot ko lahat…

Duh? do i look like a Guru? But in fairness to them and to myself, I really try to search for answers to their unending questions. I also emphatize with them (This is hard for me coz somehow, i have already forgotten the feeling of being in the midst of a messy relationship). Coz when there is nothing else to say, what matters is I am there for my friends to give them a hug and just listen.

Come to think of it, i've never uttered to any of my friends the four dreaded words "I Told You So." And I don't have plans of delivering these lines in the future. In my moments of solitude, i also reflected as to why i haven't told them those words, when it can be the easiest way to stop their kahibangans (on the other hand, i don't even want to term it as that.)

And this is what I found– despite being my self-proclaimed "The Ice Queen" title, I am still an ultra-romantic person at heart. I have always wished for everyone to have a happy-ever-after endings. Kung di man sa akin nangyari, o mangyayari, at least i will be a witness to one's happy ending.

I have read in one of my books that God only makes happy endings and if it's not happy, then it's not yet the end of the story…

I am a strong believer of that phrase. So, I am not an Ice Queen, after all… as what my good friend Vittorio often tells me…  Oo na, Vittorio– inaamin ko na, the Ice Queen persona was all illusion…