A reflection on friendship

 I never thought of this before: Do i have a bestfriend? Until i read a blog of my online buddy Janis Paredes titled "An ode to my bestfriend." 

I actually made a comment on her site. I am publishing it here with additional thoughts (kasi medyo mahaba na yun comment ko sa site nya hehe)

hmmm… come to think of it? do i have a bestfriend? ang alam ko meron akong "inner circle" na mga kaibigan… and im sure of their loyalty… they will die for me.

pero yun 1 bestfriend? i dont know… does this mean yun lagi mong nakakasama madalas? yung pinakamatagal mo na kakilala? someone who knows you inside out?

nag-isip tuloy ako… parang walang natatangi. kasi lahat sila pare-pareho. they all know my life, my deepst fears, my greatest hopes, my likes and dislikes. wala ako itinago at maitatago sa kanila… if these are the basis, then i guess, i consider them all my bestfriends.

sa paglipas ng panahon, ive been betrayed, hurt, and loved. kasama ko sila sa lungkot at pati na sa tagumpay. They cried with me. They laughed with me. My joys are their joys. My sorrows they have also embraced.

Kumbaga, they are all extra special to me. Walang angat. Lahat, pantay-pantay. Some of them i met in college, and some etong mga later years na. Though the length of years vary, the depth of our samahan is the same.

Nakakatawa pa, iba-ibang grupo ang mga eto. Me iba-ibang interes, nasa iba-ibang larangan. Minsan, one group does not like the other group. Wala lang chemistry, ganun. But they have a common denominator: that’s ME.

I love them all for they respect my choices. Di nila ako pinapapili kung sino ang mas mahal ko. Pag may misunderstandings even to a set of my friends, nakakatuwa kasi sa akin din sila tumatakbo o nagsusumbong. Naku, kung intregera lang ako, mas lalo silang nag-away away hahaha!

That’s why I love them all the more. They know i don’t take sides. Basically, I am there for them to listen, and bridge…

My experience with people (coz ive been too trusting and gullible) made me choosy when it comes to friends. Mabibilang mo lang talaga sa daliri ang mga kaibigang nasa "inner circle" ko.

Who i have now are my bestfriends. They are God’s gifts. I just hope that the friendship i have with them will be for life…