Healing a bruised ego

 It’s just the ego. Take away the ego factor and nothing has changed. Life is normal as it used to be. Easier said than done.

I guess, all of us have experienced a bruised ego. The normal thing to do is to accept it, honor the feeling of the moment, lick your wound, and move on to eventual healing. What will make the difference, however, is how fast can you can move on and make your life as normal as it used to be.

In spirituality classes, the first thing that a guru teaches his students is at least taming (if not totally mastering) the ego. There are techniques and guides but when you find yourself in THE situation, all that you have learned (which you thought you have mastered) seemed to have gone away.

I am still in the process of mastering the ego (and mastering myself. It’s a constant challenge *sigh*). Hopefully, i will learn the lesson fast. I may not perfect it, but it’s also my hope that after each experience, there will emerge a better ME.

Perhaps, it must be the reason why the universe recently let me experience again the feeling of having a bruised ego to see how i fared this time. The result remains to be seen. If there is one positive development this time, I am now aware of what is happening…

I draw inspiration from the writings of, who else but Paulo Coelho. His book The Warrior of the Light has been a helpful companion in my life’s journey.

"The Warrior of the Light knows the value of persistence and of courage. Often, during combat, he receives blows that he was not expecting. And he realizes that, during war, his enemy is bound to win some of the battles. When this happens, he weeps bitter tears and rests in order to recover his energy a little. But he immediately resumes his battle for his dreams.

The longer her remains away, the more likely he is to feel weak, fearful, and intimidated. When a horseman falls off his horse, if he does not remount immediately, he will never have the courage to do so again."  (Warrior of the Light: A Manual by Paulo Coelho, page 99)